Selfish love VS Selfless love.
Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 11:43 pm
I'll start this out with a quote of my own words when I was drunk. Skip it, you don't need to read it, I'm just selfish and wanted to quote it. Actually, after reading it over, I think I was just confused, which I still am, just not drunk. Damn that was a fucking run on sentence. Anyway.
Now, read the sober me...
I heard an interesting story today about love, and was wondering what people thought on the subject.
It was a debate in which they were saying simply that love is the most selfish of emotions, that is when people are in love. That love is based on what the other person gives to you, maybe they make you laugh, feel comfortable, they turn you on, they listen to you whatever, but basically love is ultimately selfish.
Is this true or not and what do you think about this discussion I heard?
I don't think that love is selfish but if someone tries to force that love onto somebody who doesn't love you. Then it's both selfish and harassment. Or maybe I'm not fully grasping the debate as a whole. Perhaps I should look deeper into this... Okay. Love is what you make of it. Love is wanting the best for that person, when you make do with what you have. But then you should or normally get it back so its even. Hrm, Is that considered Selfish? Getting back what you put in...
Sorry to be so cynical, but yeah, I definately think love is selfish. But the thing that gets people upset about this idea is that they think that being selfish is some sort of terrible thing? Love is still beautiful...selfish or not. It's completely amazing that someone can find a person who satisfies all their needs/wants and whom that person satisfies reciprically. When people come down from their bubble worlds in which exist ideas like love and happiness and they just live in the moment and enjoy what they have instead of what they think they should have, the world comes into perspective and becomes even more beautiful than any ideal could make it.
But then again, Bubble worlds are quite nice. Fuck me! I don't know!
Love is what it is. Love is what we seek for because we think he need it in order to be happy. Love has made some angry, love has made some upset love has made some bipolar. (note, I once thought Bipolar was a polorbear that went both ways) Love has made some happy, love has made some content with their lives. The truth is, love is so damn easy to find that it's drive many insane and others happy. It starts with yourself and it ends with yourself. In order to find love, you must learn what love is. And love is trusting, caring, all that good mushy shit. Whatever. But first you must learn to love yourself before you can truely love anyone else. In fact, fuck loving someone else, you just need to learn to love yourself. That's my way, I love me so much. I'd do anything for me. I'm awesome!
That's what I'm talking about, in order to be happy you must find love within yourself. First step in doing this is to accept the fact that true love doesn't really exsist unless you want it too. If you don't believe in true love, then your never find it. If you believe in true love then you'll find it, within yourself. You'll realize that sooner or later you and every single body in this world will die. There's no way out of it, you will die. Everyone will die. You, me. Everyone! We all will fucking die. Your mother will die if she hasn't already, your dad will also, your sister will, yoru brother will, your aunt and uncle's will and most importantly, you will. Therefore, once you realize this simple fact, you will Either become suicidal or you will grasp the true meaning of love. IMO, if you truely love someone, you can let them go. Simple as that. My Xgirlfrien back when I was 16 years old died in a car Wreck, sure, I was only 16 years old but at the time I thought I loved her which I still do. The only reason why I can say that I Truely loved her is because I've learned to let her go. So go, love yourself. That's what I do, the reason why I've had so much trouble finding another girl is because I've had trouble accepting the fact that no matter what, sooner or later one or the other will die. I'm not willing to put myself into that chance again. As of now, I love me in a selfish kind of way, it's all about me. me. me. me. me. .. .. ... and Jesus.
Now, read the sober me...
I heard an interesting story today about love, and was wondering what people thought on the subject.
It was a debate in which they were saying simply that love is the most selfish of emotions, that is when people are in love. That love is based on what the other person gives to you, maybe they make you laugh, feel comfortable, they turn you on, they listen to you whatever, but basically love is ultimately selfish.
Is this true or not and what do you think about this discussion I heard?
I don't think that love is selfish but if someone tries to force that love onto somebody who doesn't love you. Then it's both selfish and harassment. Or maybe I'm not fully grasping the debate as a whole. Perhaps I should look deeper into this... Okay. Love is what you make of it. Love is wanting the best for that person, when you make do with what you have. But then you should or normally get it back so its even. Hrm, Is that considered Selfish? Getting back what you put in...
Sorry to be so cynical, but yeah, I definately think love is selfish. But the thing that gets people upset about this idea is that they think that being selfish is some sort of terrible thing? Love is still beautiful...selfish or not. It's completely amazing that someone can find a person who satisfies all their needs/wants and whom that person satisfies reciprically. When people come down from their bubble worlds in which exist ideas like love and happiness and they just live in the moment and enjoy what they have instead of what they think they should have, the world comes into perspective and becomes even more beautiful than any ideal could make it.
But then again, Bubble worlds are quite nice. Fuck me! I don't know!