bitter after a bad relationship?

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Bitter ever?

yes
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no never:-p
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whats bitter?
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i had a relationship?
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Postby Cwew » Thu Jun 16, 2005 10:34 am

How old are you? I'd guess teen, mid to late. But I'm guessing.

I only had one meaningful relationship when I was your age (if I'm right) and it lasted about 7 years, then she decided to sleep with a few other guys so I booked. heh.

Bitter? I was for a while I guess. Honestly now though, I miss talking to her when she was still sane, or maybe when we were still friends? I don't miss the "love". I also miss her family, but I still keep in touch with a lot of them so that's not that big of an issue.

Her I don't talk to since I got an e-mail from her about two years after we broke up saying she's pregnant, and kind of hinting she wanted to get back together with me, even though the kids not mine, I wrote back a short and sweet "best of luck, I don't think we should talk until you get your life in order" e-mail, and now she's married to the guy that knocked her up. (at least I'd guess it's him).

After her I didn't date or anything for a while. The next girl I dated turned out to be a psycho, after two weeks of dating I had a doctors appointment to get my knee looked at (I busted it up playing hockey) and I told her about it b/c she was a nurse and asked if there were any doctors she could recommend. She recommended one and I said ok, I'll go see him. I'll call you when I get home, etc etc.

Well, I'm in the waiting room and a nurse (desk clerk) calls my name so I walk up and expect to be led to a room, but she says "Phone call, line 3" so I answer it thinking "Shit, my dad's dead and my mom somehow tracked me down to here" -the days before I had a cell-phone. But no, it's the girl I've dated for two weeks. "Hey! What's up?" ...."uh, I'm waiting for the doc, I'll call you when I get home..bye." *click* "Sorry about that" (to the nurse).

So I'm sitting in the examination room and the doctor's looking at my knee, and twisting it (looking at the x-ray) etc etc... *knock knock* on the door. She walks in....

At this point I'm seeing clips from Fatal Attraction going through my head, but I smile...nervously and introduce her to the doc. We get home and I chew her out. 2 weeks of dating and you walk into my doctors appointment?

Anyway. long story short, she pulled another thing similiar to this about a week later and I broke it off b/c she's psycho.

So then I didn't date anyone till I moved back to New Orleans, about 6 months later, and now I'm about to ask my girlfriend to marry me. wee.

Bitter though? I don't think I've ever been bitter...just upset and / or dissapointed in the other person. "Let down by someone that shouldn't"

If my x-fiancee had come up to me and said "hey chris, don't you feel we're not working out as well as we used to? I think we should call it off" Before she had slept with the two guys I found out about, things would've been hurtful, but I would've still been her friend probably, and there wouldn't have been the dissapointment factor. I would've still respected her.


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Postby -- Brando -- » Thu Jun 16, 2005 8:12 pm

~*Hellokittygurl*~ wrote:kay...thanks? lol
that was entertainment lol...
goodluck on the proposal though..hope it works out :)

Brando..i admire you for not wanting a relationship whatsoever
Your cool :D


That's not to say I never have the desire for a relationship from time to time. It's no different from my having a desire to murder the nearest living thing and eat it from time to time. I just have the inherent willpower to suppress and forget about it.

It's a primitive function of baser human hardwiring that needs to be overcome. Now I'm not saying this way of life is best for everybody. It's a very introspective way of choosing to be and it takes something (like my Asperger Syndrome). I don't despise the reproductive cycle of life and the emotional attachment, real or fake, therein .. I just choose not to take part in it.
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Postby winter » Sat Jun 18, 2005 9:49 pm

I wish someone would admire me...
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Postby -- Brando -- » Sat Jun 18, 2005 10:19 pm

winter wrote:I wish someone would admire me...


Go the easy route .. instead of wishing for external admiration, create your own. Admire yourself. Sure it sounds conceited and egocentric but it's the first step in ridding yourself of the need for validation by other human beings. And as I mentioned in the previous post, it's unnecessary to desire such merit.
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Postby winter » Sat Jun 18, 2005 11:38 pm

Yes, I'm aware of this knowledge but I'm afraid that I can only admire myself to a certain point. Now I'm sick of myself because I've over admired myself where no one else has admired me therefore causing my admiration to become somewhat lost in my confusion of understanding rather or not I'm worth being admired over.
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Postby -- Brando -- » Sun Jun 19, 2005 1:02 am

I admire your admiration as it provides something to be admired ..

Sorry I'm purty buzzed on a substances that I'll keep unnamed for fun :wink:
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Postby insanehippie » Sun Jun 19, 2005 10:13 pm

I know some folks who had relationships just to say they're in a relationship. That's no way to be with someone else.

If the girl from Florence likes you, but you don't like her on that level, it means it's one way. Most of the women I like, don't like me like that and vice versa. That's why I'm the Permabachelor.

If Florence is extremely annoying to you, what makes you think she'll get better if you're with her all of the time? It will only get worse... much worse. At least while you're single you can get away from her easily. You can talk your way out of being near her. If you're hooked up with her, you'll be miserable forever.

Being alone sucks sometimes, even for me and I've been used to it forever. Hang out with your friends, meet new people, talk on here, do something to get your mind off of being single. If you keep thinking of how bad it is being single, you might run towards Florence forgetting why you don't like her...

One way relationships aren't good, they're a waste of two perfectly good people. People who are perfectly good away from each other.

winter wrote:That would not only be cheating her out of being happy, but it would also be cheating myself out of the things that life has to offer.

You're exactly right with that. Don't cheat yourself and her from a better relationship with someone else.

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winter wrote:But seriously, I've witness many of my friends 'settle' for a girl whom they aren't happy to be with, and vice versa. I mean, it's just sad to watch two couples be together just because... They sometimes claim that they love each other but most of the time they fight. But yet, they stay with one another because they both are comfortable with the misery. They settle for one another because they feel like they are damned if they do and damned if they don't. They feel trapped. It's really sad to see it happen. And I've seen it a lot.

I know this girl from Florance who's all crazy in love with me and want to bare my children. I know the feeling of wanting to settle. Because I've even had to fight it off. You can easyly get sucked into the trap. I was thinking, well. She is cute, and I wouldn't be lonely at nights anymore. But she's so damn annoying. She is so damn extremly annoying. I know I don't love her, but she says she loves me so that must count for something. But damn, she makes me sick sometimes. Anyhow, had I been like one of my friends (I'm not gonna name any names, but shit, you guys wouldn't know him anyway) then I would have 'settled' with her just because I was lonely at the time. That would not only be cheating her out of being happy, but it would also be cheating myself out of the things that life has to offer.
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Postby insanehippie » Sun Jun 19, 2005 10:16 pm

glitter_dawl wrote:life's too short to be bitter all the time.

Damn straight.

If I was a bitter SOB I'd have no chance of having fun with my friends, drinking up a storm and dancing my white Irish ass off at Mars. Being bitter and sad only works for Emo kids, and I'm not about go start wearing ugly rolled up blue jeans with Buddy Holly glasses.
It's not my style at all.
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Postby insanehippie » Sun Jun 19, 2005 10:19 pm

winter wrote:Yes, I'm aware of this knowledge but I'm afraid that I can only admire myself to a certain point. Now I'm sick of myself because I've over admired myself where no one else has admired me therefore causing my admiration to become somewhat lost in my confusion of understanding rather or not I'm worth being admired over.

This is becoming like an MC Escher painting...
I'm lost.
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Postby insanehippie » Mon Jun 20, 2005 2:51 am

-- Brando -- wrote:Sorry I'm purty buzzed on a substances that I'll keep unnamed for fun :wink:

Is it Giggle Cream?
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